走在奔三的路上.doc

A proper quarterlife crisis involves a certain amount of disillusionment, ennui, boredom, fear, anxiety, and growing pains. But those terrifying sounding emotions are the ones that get all the presshow about giving that “growing” some props for once?25歲以后，幾乎每個(gè)人都會經(jīng)歷自我懷疑、情緒不穩(wěn)、迷茫未來的階段，這叫做1/4生命危機(jī)癥候群。1/4生命危機(jī)表現(xiàn)為心理的幻滅感，對生活感到倦怠、無聊、恐懼和焦慮的一系列成長煩惱。但正是這些聽起來可怕的情緒問題帶來了所有的壓力：我們?nèi)绾尾拍転檫@些成長煩惱找到情緒支撐和慰藉呢？You Know What Friendship Is友情到底是什么In high school or college, friendship was mostly a matter of geographywho you had classes with or who lived down the hall or joined the same club. Out in the real world for a while, youve learned that real friendship is made of tougher andand dare we say itbetter stuff. (Although just wait until youre in your thirties and everyones getting married and having kidsthats when the real test comes.)在高中或者大學(xué)時(shí)代，友情其實(shí)就是建立在地域之上的：和你一起上課，和你同宿舍，或一起參加了某個(gè)社團(tuán)。而在社會上，你會發(fā)現(xiàn)友情的建立會更加困難，甚至?xí)游镔|(zhì)化。（等你到了30歲，結(jié)了婚有了孩子，這才是真正考驗(yàn)友情的時(shí)候。）Sunscreen Is Important防曬霜很重要Right around age twenty-five, you start to be able to tell who wears sunscreen and whos a sun-worshipperthe sunscreeners still have dewy, youthful skin, while the tanners have the beginnings of crows-feet and brown spots. Which group do you want to be in?當(dāng)你到了25歲左右，你開始能分辨誰擦了防曬霜，誰愛曬太陽了。擦了防曬霜的女人都有一臉?biāo)勰贻p肌膚，而那些愛把皮膚曬成棕褐色的人臉上就開始魚尾紋和雀斑橫生了。你會加入到哪個(gè)隊(duì)列中去呢？You Dont Know Everything你不會通曉一切Ever heard that saying, “A little knowledge is a dangerous thing.” College makes you feel like youve got it all figured out, and that blinds you to the truthwhich is that you know so little, you cant even comprehend how little you know. Luckily, the real world is quite handy at disabusing you of the notion that youre a twenty-two-year-old font of wisdom. At work, in relationships the more experience you get, the more you realize how much more you still have to learn. 經(jīng)常聽到人說：“沒文化真可怕”。大學(xué)文憑讓你感覺自己博學(xué)多才，而恰恰是這樣的想法蒙蔽了真相：其實(shí)你什么都不懂，你甚至都還未意識到這一點(diǎn)。幸運(yùn)地是，這個(gè)現(xiàn)實(shí)的世界會非常樂意讓你明白：你只是個(gè)有著22歲頭腦的小女孩。在工作中，在戀愛關(guān)系中，你經(jīng)歷得越多，你就會越發(fā)意識到自己還有那么多東西需要學(xué)習(xí)。You Cant Pull Off Every Trend你不可能駕馭所有的流行趨勢Skinny jeans, thigh-high boots, hippie headbands, crop topsyou cant winem all. Youve learned which ones work and that its okay to abstain from the ones that dont.緊身牛仔褲，長筒高跟鞋，嬉皮士頭巾以及露臍上衣，你不可能都適合。你需要發(fā)現(xiàn)哪種風(fēng)格適合你，然后明智地丟掉剩下的衣服。Living with Five Roommates Is Terrible和五個(gè)朋友合住很恐怖It isnt one totally awesome continuous bohemian girl-power slumber party. Its just a pain in the ass. Youve resolved that youll share your next apartment with only one other roommate.波西米亞風(fēng)的睡衣派對不會一直進(jìn)行著。一群女孩合住一屋實(shí)在令人頭疼。你必須下定決心，下一次換住處，只能跟一個(gè)室友分享公寓。Your Degree is Meaningless文憑一文不值A(chǔ)ll those hours you fretted about your major and wondering if it was marketable enough, if your GPA was high enough, and if your extracurriculars were impressive enoughand now you know that most employers just want to see that youve completed something. Who cares if its a degree in drama or basket-weaving or P.E.? Nobody cares about the particulars of what you did in college, only that you went and finished.大學(xué)里，你花了大部分的時(shí)間糾結(jié)自己的專業(yè)課將來是否能很吃香，或者自己的GPA是否夠高，社團(tuán)工作是否做得很贊而你現(xiàn)在明白了，所有企業(yè)看重的是你真正有過什么成就。誰會在乎你是學(xué)戲劇還是籃球、家政還是體育呢？沒人會關(guān)心你的大學(xué)細(xì)節(jié)，他們只關(guān)心你參加和完成了的工作。Everyone Compromises每個(gè)人都會向現(xiàn)實(shí)妥協(xié)So you thought youd ride the powerful wave of your idealism into a job where youd change the world and find glory? Sometimes you have to take a job because you need health insurance. Sometimes you make the sensible, safe decision instead of the one that youre passionate about. Sometimes you make allowances in your righteous ideology to account for the fact that quite often, life is just ab